I
really wanted to get to this sooner, but a spiritualized socialite like me has a
busy schedule. I can't get to all the stuff I want too.
Thursday night is Grey’s Anatomy night, and I am off to my best friend’s house to enjoy a show that’s one of my guilty pleasures. The doctors in Grey’s live
in a total fantasy world where love and friendship trump everything. A happy
pappy place where a group of mostly white interns love each other deeply and
work under not 1, not 2, but 3,3,3 levels of African American supervision with
all their pearly whites on display at all times. This is usually because they
are too focused trying to get their groove on with the gorgeous senior staff to
think much about the kinds of things that would come up in real world where
people would get in trouble for using the genitals this openly, this regularly.
Back
in October of last year, 2 cast members got into a disagreement, over the
lateness of a 3rd member of the cast for work on a scene. Supposedly
words were exchanged, voices were raised, some reports included a choking
incident (still unconfirmed), and the word faggot got tossed into the mix by an
angry Washington, making for a good scandal. He seemed to be referring to the 3rd castmate TR Knight, who has since come out of the closet. Apparently there was an Indian summer closet cleaning, releasing Neil Patrick Harris, the former
Doogie Houser, as well. Initial reports were all about McDreamy getting choked.
Little mention was made about the word part of the incident. BUT . . . The story
refused to die. Fast forward to this year, and Grey’s wins a Golden Globe.
Backstage during a press feeding frenzy, a clever chap asks about tensions on
the set after the October incident. The inebriated Washington pops out, grabs
the mike, apparently telling a big ole lie says he “never called TR a
faggot” and all hell breaks loose in the gay community. Isaiah is a evil,
venal homophobe as must be fired from the hit show immediately, the protectors
of gay virtue cry. Some say that IW won’t be fired because he is black. Some
go so far as to attack the shows’ creator because she protected him because
she is black. Some insist that using the word faggot is as the same as using the
word nigger. This all fascinates Ms. Gaydah since earlier this month watching an
episode of Real World Denver on MTV, the Gaydah espied a white gay man referring
to one of his black cast mates as a nigger on-screen. I wonder where is the
outrage, about that? Of course, when these things come up, the info you get
coming back is I didn’t know about that. How neat and pat. I wonder do the
politically correct crew ever wonder why? Now Ms. Gaydah realizes the difference
between a MTV show and a network show. Where Gaydah gets confused is how the
high and mighty bitch brigade chooses its targets.
Just to come correct I have to say, that I want to smack the hell out of Isaiah for a cornucopia of reasons. For being so stupid as to be caught saying something like that. I try to lie about it. Then his clumsy attempts to express his lack of gay
bias. That I wish I were gay crap. I’m sure he thought it was cute, but it
just came across as silly, and maybe even patronizing. Although I think he was
sincere. AND if he were to become gay, his dick would get sucked a lot. I know
this. I’ve seen him up close. He’d have to invest in a stun gun to run the
children off his stuff. You know, ever since he has been on this show, he has
been in this weird trying to play race down thing like, you know, where all
equal and it’s all love bullshit. I’m guessing there’ll be some revisions
to that tune. He keeps telling this story about some Korean people coming up to
him in a restaurant or something. Maybe he thinks he really cured something
here, and the bitch in the store up the block from me just has a permanent case
of indigestion. That’s why she keeps scrunching up her face when I give her
pennies on purpose, or make her put the change in my hand instead of on the
table.
On
the other hand I am not mad him about homophobia. You see back in 1990 or so, IW
was the lead in a play written by my boyfriends’ best friend. A crazy bitch if
I’ve ever met one. N-T-way, my boyfriend and several other gay men were in the
play. We met Isaiah, hung out with him, several times. There was no trace of the
dreaded hatred of gays, that everyone is sure is the case now. He had the weird,
intense, creative-type thing going on, but then so did my boyfriend’s best
friend. They became pretty close. So nobody is going to convince me that he is a
homophobe because the Gaydah shook his hand and looked him in the eye myself.
On
the other hand, I have been dancing at the gay club since the end of disco, and
I KNOW that high priestesses of gay culture don’t always wash their hands when
they use the bathroom. Gaydah never shakes unless I know for sure. The gay
glitterati are just as capable of using slurs and epithets as anybody else and
have very little hesitancy about doing so. The children call me bitch so much I
began to think it was a part of my name. Buddha bitch. They don’t mean
anything by it. C-mon bitch, let’s go to brunch. That sort of thing. They use
the word faggot just as interchangeably. I know have seen the word faggot on
many of the big gay blogs online, used by the authors. Them hands ain’t so
clean. We all know that it really comes down to when you use a word like that,
what context you are using it in. Is it being used among friends, or community
members or somebody who’s in on the joke, if it is a joke? Is it in an
argument to hurt somebody’s feelings? Or is it being used to genuinely
identify some characteristic of a person in a negative way?
I
think ole IW has taken quite enough heat for this already. He’s apologized
profusely. Decided to publicly address his anger issues. Met with the
appropriate poobahs of public protection and received the important lectures
equivalent to washing his mouth out with soap. Let the girls with the golden
spun mouths go back to berating Brittany for her undergear choices.
Interesting
what stories the media picks up on and which ones just go by the wayside. In
that episode of Real World Denver, after being separated by the producers, the
white gay man who called the back man a nigger, come back to his housemates and
apologized for his behavior. After explaining to them that he had a drinking
problem and should not have had so much the drink the night before, the 2 black
men in the house decided to forgive him and squash the beef. Then they went
beyond that in subsequent episodes where both sides made an effort to reach and
get close to one another. What a novel idea. Where firing someone gives them an
opportunity to stay angry and become bitter, befriending someone makes
opportunities for understanding and growth. Hmmm, so which one do we really
want? I wonder.
BGA
Now everyone is talking about Ms.
Williams’ determination and steely will. This seems to come as a shock to many
since they seem to have always felt her past domination was about being bigger
and stronger. The fire in her eyes might have escaped their notice when they
were gripping about her cat suit. In true Glamazon fashion, Serena rose up,
smote her enemies, and raised the trophy. I’m ending with a quote, so congrats
Ms. Serena Williams. Some of us have always loved you and will never stop.
